Most men are keen to be as confident as possible when it comes to sex. It can often seem as though there are so many more reasons not to be, and that there is a lot stacked against you. However, the truth is that there are all sorts of things you can do to gain sexual confidence, and it might even be easier than you think. In this post, we’ll discuss a few of the ways in which you might want to focus on this, so you can gain a new found love for your sex life.
Build Your Relationship With Yourself
This is always overlooked, but it’s actually the most important thing – perhaps the only important thing in all of this. As long as you have a healthy relationship with yourself, that is naturally going to lead to much more confidence in bed and around all sexual matters. So this is the main thing that you should work on. It’s about working on how you see yourself, and trying to accept yourself for what you are and as you are. This leads to the kind of confidence that will really carry through into the bedroom.
Start Talking About It
Fear breeds in darkness and silence, so if you want to become more confident in something, you need to be able to talk about it. Unfortunately, as a culture we are shy about talking about sex, and this seems particularly true for men. If you can start talking about sex, you’ll find that this helps to dispel a lot of myths and makes it a less overwhelming and scary thing. Practice saying what you like and asking what your partner likes, and learn how to talk about boundaries and consent. All of this will help with developing your confidence.
Love Your Body
Can you honestly say you love your body? A lot of us struggle with this kind of notion. But actually, learning to love your body is a really vital part of developing some sexual confidence. Part of this comes down to overcoming ideas around what is expected and what’s normal – ideas which have often been blown out of proportion by the media and pornography. To begin with this process, ask yourself: does penis size really matter? The answer should help you to figure out what ideas you need to change in order to love your body more.
Focus On Connection
It is often the case that men are encouraged to think about performance during sex. But this leads to all kinds of anxiety that is simply not necessary, and could be easily avoided by changing focus. If you instead focus on the connection you are building between yourself and your partner, that is where the real confidence lies, and it’s a much healthier and happier approach to sex in general. So this might be the one secret key to becoming more confident in the bedroom, and in yourself generally.
